Why You Feel You Can't Be Asked Anymore As A Guy

The Decreasing Marginal Utility Of Sexualisation

It comes down to two factors: Desensitisation and Commoditisation.

What is abundant becomes meaningless. This also relates to the Gen Z issue, which is the mascot of the above.

Over the past 20 years, but even more so in the past 10 years, we have seen a democratisation of sexuality.

Porn was one but not the only cause.

It started with the internet; guys started being able to browse women with little clothes on under .jpg format. Then there was the P2P Bootlegging, where people shared porn videos. Back then, most websites were paying. So, it was not as mainstream.

Whether it was music, movies, or adult content, younger gens do not know the length and problem-solving guys had to go through to get the targeted material.

"Do you know Limewire?". Tell me you are old without telling me you are old.

Then, the Tube sites came into play.

Another factor is the direct access to women through smartphones.

Before that, people had to approach women outside to get anywhere with them. So, some guys learned about PUAs. Then, websites such as Match dot com started to be used, but there was a lot of stigma associated with going online.

"You must be desperate to be there".

It started to get more acceptance in the late 2000s.

The advent of smartphones and dating apps eventually normalised it with Tinder about a decade ago.

People will tell you a good half of the 10s' was the heyday for dating apps.

Cameras on the smartphone were the big game changer, as pictures and selfies were the new norm, and picture quality became a selling point when buying a new iPhone or Samsung. Add the advent of IG, and we witnessed a flood of pictures from your average woman who now could enjoy posting for attention to trigger male thirst.

I remember that, in 2015, I was at my company and chatted with some of my female colleagues. They were all on the "Gram", and they told me about it.

I asked, "What is the point of you following someone?"

"It is just pictures, right?"

I still didn't get it as the French Flinstone I was. Then, it started getting more traction as celebrities embraced the platform. It eventually became a digital business card.

What was bound to happen eventually happened. As the platform was getting more and more popular, to get more traffic, there was a need to do more and more attention-grabbing content, which led to the sexualisation of IG as a platform into the soft porn top of the funnel for OFs and other adult content it has become.

Digitally, we were already groomed into accepting the whorisation of women in society.

It also happened in real life. When looking at clothing trends, fewer are left to the imagination. I remember back when I was in France at University when a girl was wearing a tiny skirt, it was a head turner, and other women would slut shame her for it.

Now, it is not as much risqué. However, in France, due to the local delights in terms of population, there are more deterrents to being too revealing as a woman in some areas.

In my early adulthood, I moved from France to the UK. It was a culture shock. Whereas many women, even in Paris, wore quite conservative and non-revealing clothes, I came to London and thought I had come to paradise.

It was Slagland. Women were dressed with a lot of skin to show off, which got me fired, like Wile E. Coyote and the Road Runner. However, I was quite startled by the Brits' nonchalance. Was it due to their well-known phlegmatism, or have they just been used to it? It did not make a difference to them.

I initially thought the former, but I now believe it had more to do with the latter.

Clivage galores, Chokers, high heels... Hallelujah, the Lord answered my calls. Then came the Yoga Pants and Crop Sports Top. The gym became the new nightclub. The next level was unlocked with the Short version. Butt crack out there. The gym then, with TikTok, became a Circus for Attention-seeking and Guys shaming.

My friends and I started joking that we were becoming old farts asking ourselves if these girls were "having a laugh" with their tripods.

Women's sexualisation became a mainstay. It's interesting what a century does. From getting a boner when an ankle was displayed to getting bombarded with Tits and Asses everywhere you go. When I go on my daily walk, it is filled with these £150 gym very fitted outfits, now called activewear. Where not only can they wear it inside the gym to be "more comfortable", but they also go shopping with it.

This is not to mention the underboob trend, skinny Tonga thong, and the democratisation of G-strings.

I have difficulty remembering when one was not wearing one when I pulled their pants down before getting down to business.

Obviously, with travelling becoming cheaper, everybody wanted to show off their attire on the PR platform that IG became.

This ushered in the democratisation of sex work. Either officially or unofficially. I have been with a few women who admitted they were cold DMed to be sugar babies.

This is the current landscape that Gen Z is seeing. They do not know anything else.

Add to this the fact that communication is instant now, and people can reach out to one another whenever they want through WhatsApp or other social media platforms. Someone's privacy or access has essentially become meaningless, making it less valuable.

A girl can fill her attention cup whenever she wants. She can open an app and be done with it. Guys can open a tube site, have a rub, and be done with this, too.

When it comes to dating, the first annoyance or red flag is a dealbreaker because people don't have the patience to deal with BS or something that does not meet their expectations. I am also guilty of that.

One factor that is quite understated is how much exposure we have in terms of digital human interactions.

That means that thanks to the multitude of online chats people have, patterns-seeking behaviours are much more easily spotted, and therefore, there is boredom from having been there repeatedly.

A good equivalent is Poker, which went from a backroom activity to an online one. People went from playing a certain number of hands per hour to more than 10x that amount. This created a generation of poker WizKids who got to learn a lot more and a lot faster about the game itself.

It is the same with online messaging.

In a way, tech has completely undermined the female mystique but is also turning people into human algorithms with automatism.

Think of something such as double texting. It is so badly connoted because people draw so much interpretation from it. This is not to say that they make the wrong assumptions. However, it has turned them into texting exegetes rather than full-blown real-life individuals.

That is why they generally lack the presence once they meet people face to face.

"Oh, we really vibed on text, but it just did not mesh in real life".

Ultimately, desensitisation came from women's sexualisation in our everyday lives, which men have become nonchalant about. This has created a commoditisation of women, destroying the female mystique. This is fine with them as they get their attention cup filled. However, the value attached to a commoditised asset is only deflationary over the long run.

This is eventually ushering in a phase where men, like when vanilla porn gets boring, go on the hedonistic treadmill to seek something that can trigger them again and are slowly turning numb to it all as the shock and awe value is losing its effect.

If you were among the people who had the opportunity to see and enjoy the sexual revolution 2.0, the above effect is even more poignant.

Porn, (lack of) clothing, sexual lobotomisation through apps, social media, the democratisation of sex work, instant digital communication and its effect on the mind has finally brought us to this stage:

The Emperess has no clothes where garment used to be the textile equivalent of personal depth