If you have been dating in the 2010s and even more so in the 2020s, what is starting to become evident is that:
To attract women, you must display behaviour that meets their hypergamic needs.
These behaviours include:
=> Not caring about her
=> Spinning plates to display non-attachment
=> Disengagement to evidence outcome independence
=> Be aloof post-sex to show she has not won you over, and to invite her to invest
These can be manufactured, or they can be, because you actually don’t care about her.
From the woman’s perspective, she wants to ensure she is with the right guy. Still, at the same time, it fosters dissatisfaction in the man, who feels they have to act a certain way against their logical tendency to problem-solve and achieve the goals they set for themselves.
The latter will turn her off completely.
When he does not, he wants nothing to do with her, which only attracts her more.
So it is a merry-go-round of chase to be pumped and dumped for the women, or a chase to be discarded for the guy.
This is not to discount the mirroring of female dating strategies to that of guys, taking away all of what made them feminine to begin with:
