The Communication Trap Most Guys Fall For

Self-Qualify To Not Qualify

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Christian Troy is a plastic surgeon invited by one of his clients to a dinner at hers.

The other female attendants are also uber-rich Californian divorcees who invited their respective surgeons.

As you can expect, they are looking at different ways of pissing away their ex-husband’s money on shopping and sex with other guys.

So now they have all these high-value men at a table, and they decide to make them fight for the Cougars Face and Buttlift bulk package.

There are a few lessons in these clips. You can still be a high-value man from the money and status perspective that your job provides you with, but it holds no weight if you don’t own the attitude that goes along with it.

Many men will go to many lengths to gain the approval of women through these measures of success, but what they forget is that the appearance of achieving these for the benefit of getting access to women renders these objective metrics meaningless because what women resonate with is the subjective value that you display. They don’t care as much, especially if they have money, of the FUCK YOU Money as the FUCK YOU Attitude.

This is lost on some participants who are still forever good schoolboys following the rules.

The host of the party throws a trap. 3 out of the 5 surgeons fell for it.

“What are your credentials?” => She is setting the stage for the surgeons to use her qualification metrics to make them fight against one another and for her and her friends to enjoy the show.

When you are a guy who has worked a lot and accomplished significant tasks, it feels incredible to enjoy the appreciation or vindication of all your previous hard work. Newsflash: Women don’t care. The male ego will more than push you to qualify yourself to others, tooting your own horn. What you are missing is that you validate being judged by the person asking the question.

No matter how good or how amazing what you are going to say, you fall in the fame of the person setting you up for it.

When the male ego is not telling you to sing your praises because you were asked to do so, your logical thinking will push you to comply or your subordinate conditioning of following the rules set for you. Even when not prompted, self-qualifying indicates no emotional self-sufficiency because you must tell what you could not demonstrate and anchor your follower status, which is self-defeating as a man.

As you could have expected from people who excelled at school, they were pleased to comply. School teaches you to be docile to be good employees beyond the knowledge you gain over the years.

Going back to the video. What do these surgeons do?

1) The Twins emphasize that they were top of the class at Harvard. Yes, it is an incredible feat, but they are missing the point. Their smugness, which outshines their lack of self-awareness, highlights this. They accept competition from others, thinking they are better because of their credentials. They use logic to get business from people who usually act out of emotion.

2) The third one is even worse. He is not catching on to the dynamic. Not only is he following the same path towards the cliff, but he is also promoting a lesser Ivy League university. This doubles down on stupidity by admitting himself to be of lower value in a frame that does not benefit him. Someone initially set up this frame to disqualify him, and he complied.

3) Christian Troy avoids falling for the trap. So his client asks, “What about you” - instead of qualifying himself, he disqualifies himself by first not accepting the frame of the question but as well say that he was too busy fucking the cheerleader team for graduation day.

Why is this good?

1) Female pre-selection is the most potent and convincing argument for women to follow a man. If other girls felt he was popular, they must find out why. The hive mind is always right. He did not come off as bragging because he first disqualified himself as a qualified surgeon to reframe using a pre-selection angle.

2) He knew he could not compete from a credentials perspective, so it is twice as nimble. He creates the perception that he does not follow the frame set up by the host whilst still performing, putting his competition to shame by ridiculing their narrative. He brushes off the fact he does not come from a target uni, which could have been perceived as an insecurity. Still, unlike the first three guys, he does not make college his identity (he is internally focused, not externally focused) even though he mentions it in a “I could not care less” demeanour. This is in contrast to the other guys who appeared so desperate to gain the approval of the women, who initially set themselves as the judge. So, he demonstrates he has no chip on his shoulder.

3) He uses a dismissive and arrogant tone, disqualifying his competitors as chumps while still creating the perception of not caring about the competition. He refuses to fall into the credentials frame set up by the woman yet slides some off-the-class sexual accomplishments, an area in which he knows he will beat his competition hands down, using this as an excuse as to why he could not care less.

The silver fox surgeon smart enough to pick up on it took the piss out of Christian sarcastically whilst avoiding falling for the shit-test of the female host.

So, instead of being defensive and falling into the frame set up by the Silver Fox surgeon, he doubles down and takes the lead in displaying his best asset (his massive dick), which he knows the smarty pants will never have the balls to mirror. Even if he did, he would have fallen into the frame set by Christian.

Christian decided on the new framework. Another thing he did, which also needs to be mentioned, is that to diffuse the pissing contest that he wanted to avoid overtly but that he had to address due to the silver fox surgeon challenge, he decided to call out the original set-up (“pissing contest”) to make himself look like he was above all of the other guys and cutting through the BS in a show of confidence. After narrating through his reframe, he demonstrated that it was the best credential a surgeon needed.

He angled his best asset to win the game, which he then qualifies as the accurate confidence indicator while showing that confidence (beyond the junk side of it) in the interaction itself. This made the Harvard and the Brown graduates, alongside the Silver Fox guy, look like empty suits.

In addition to giving the best sales pitch and ridiculing his competition by using adversity to clown one of his opponents who tried him and dismissing the original credentials frame to disregard the first three surgeons, he is offering a benefit in kind by providing the sexual offer as a sweetener before securing the financial one.

This is what most guys miss despite what women say matters to them. The moment men fall for the qualification framework set by women or assume that they need to perform is when they fail. By dismissing the original set-up and reframing it to your benefit, you demonstrate you have the minerals to be a leader because you did not follow her lead. You indirectly qualify yourself without giving the impression you did because the moment you do, you fail.

That is what seduction is.