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French OG's avatar

Thanks for the long comment illustrating what it was for a Gen Xer and even myself as Millenial I could still benefit from the real life pre-digital age and I will sound like a has been but it was better before

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French, I was a fraternity boy in the 1990s. Man, that time was so different. Pre-internet, pre-social media, pre-red pill. Yeah, all the unleashed, innate tendencies we see today existed, but it was so simple. You hosted a party, invited lots of people, played music and provided beer in a keg. Twenty somethings, male and female, had no problems working out something close to assortative mating, for both short and long term relationships. It wasn't complicated. No one suffered from inescapable FOMO.

I wasn't aware of the "great feminization of everything" underway until I graduated college and began working in the corporate environment. Even then, in the mid-1990s, there was a "scared straight" vibe because women were in the workplace and corporations were reacting to a myriad of court settlements for large scale sexual harassment. That "feminization" process via administrative aggression has continued, unabated. If you work in a corporate environment in America, you're swimming in a feminized culture that prizes consensus above truth, harmony above merit, etc. You describe it well.

Today, I'm father to a 13 year old son and I'm horrified by the situation (for him), across all of the aspects you describe in your piece. I'm despondent, but attempting to help him plot a course through life. For now, I'm advocating for high levels of involvement in the only all-male spaces still available to him. Boys need masculine role models now more than ever. One place to find that masculinity is sports, both team sports, like baseball, and quasi-individual (mano a mano) sports, like wrestling. The second is (private) all male schools with a majority of male teachers, which are expensive AND harder to find.

Your article above didn't focus on the feminization of primary education, but the topic has been well outlined by Glover in NMMNG. Coed public schools, run by mostly female teachers and administrators, are optimized for female outcomes and have a nasty side effect of treating boys like defective girls.

Thanks for writing the article. The more we build awareness of these issues, the greater the likelihood that men will realize the "water in which they swim", maybe. Awareness of reality is the first step to change.

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