So You Want To Be The Fun Guy

As An Introvert Or An Extrovert

Being the fun guy is the quickest way to get in a girl’s pants because there is an area of no judgment where you can create an environment of light-heartedness.

Whilst connection is essential, you have to do it within the context of having fun, either through banter or making fun of what she says, whether she is serious or not, when she speaks. Or make them lose themselves emotionally so they don’t think.

The last thing you want to do is make a girl think. First of all, they are bad at it, but more importantly, they always come to the wrong conclusions doing so.

They were not made to think or have the agency given to them. As the song says: “Girls just want to have fun”.

Stop thinking about how you come across and what people may say. You are too worried about people who DGAF about you.

You will have two types of people.

The Introvert and The Extrovert.

For the introvert, you will have to develop a quick wit. It is like catnip to a woman; this is how you make her come to your world by reframing what she says. It is about listening and teasing her. This can be done through texting or on a date. I am not going to lie; it is harder to convey that energy if you tend to be quieter. Therefore, it is about communicating to her that you are quite the chill, non-worried dude; without being loud, you can demonstrate that you take nothing seriously, including yourself. You are not a goofball looking to make her laugh. You are chill about yourself and treat her like a child; she is the goofy one.

You can overshare your previous experiences to lead her to talk about hers, mirroring so that she complies with your fun frame. Reality is a verbal frame that is less powerful than a vibe frame. It is not a way to brag but to find angles from what she says to illustrate who you are and use your storytelling skills to convey fun value if appropriate. Look into her eyes with that cheeky energy and smirk.

It is also about segments for fun girls. It is not always what you do but who you deal with. Not every girl is fun, and when that is not the case, it will take a lot more investment for her to trust you and let go of the persona. Depending on your propensity to deal with one specific girl, you may want to focus only on fun girls.

How to know if she is one:

=> Does she go out often (bars, night outs, festivals)

=> Does she dress provocatively

=> Does she do or did she use to do drugs

=> Does she like to drink

=> Does she smoke

=> Does she wear a lot of make-up

=> Does she speak freely and is an extrovert

These are quick indicators; the more there is a convergence of these first indicators, the higher the likelihood that she is one or used to be one. The more you go out doing night game, the quicker you sense that energy without needing these baroque signals.

It is also better to deal with an extrovert as she may be leading the extrovert vibe conducive to fun if you are not leading with it. The introvert seems like a challenge to her to get him to loosen his G-String, so things will be less energy-intensive on your side if you are one, and it will flow better.

If you are an Extrovert

This speaks more to me, as this is how I operated whenever I went out. You move into a flow state where you are positive and look at making the people around you have a good time as you are. Your surroundings won’t necessarily match this, but it does not matter.

You make conversations with people, you talk shit using cold reads and fun assumptions through playful accusations, whenever someone shits on you with negative energy, remember it is on them, never on you, you don’t stoop to their lower level.

Look at making connections for yourself and groups of people you meet. Say you bounce from one group to another and merge groups using some of the info you gathered from one to make interactions happen and build even more value as the middleman. E.g. Where a group of guys are interested in a group of girls and make shit happen.

If you are going out alone, talk to a group of girls you are not that interested in, and the girls will see you with them. Then, use that as a leverage point to discuss with another group of girls, having built a bit more social value. But speak with guys, too. People wonder who you are, but don’t seek anything from them; just bring value.

Once you build enough vibe, you can switch to a different venue with the most appropriate group (the one that does not have plans afterwards). If it is a couple of girls, great; if you manage to isolate one, even better. The idea of warming up with the group is you build goodwill amongst her friend’s group, who are the biggest cockblockers or your best wings.

You don’t need to drink as much as you think. It does help, but you don’t want to use it as a crutch. Just be excited and full of life (it is about letting that inner child energy out) and carry that energy to contaminate people into joining your world because they can let go of it, and you thus become more socially valuable.

The Fun Guy is eventually the one who will see the most depravity aspect of women that most men won’t because they are too judgmental to realise what she is going to do when she lets herself down, even when she has someone.

Forget about your life and the seriousness behind your character; live in the moment and create a world for her to fall into. Everybody wants to get out of their rat race or leave their problems; be the one who can enable that in her.