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Brilliant essay French OG.

This breaks down some of the consequences of optimizing human relationships for compatibility while ignoring love and attraction. It is a good example of taking things to the extreme, where on one end we have blissful indulgence in love, while on the other end we have compatibility or settling (based on rationality).

The ideal scenario is finding the balance in between - a relationship in which the individuals love each other but are grounded enough to address their needs in a manner that is realistic and befitting of their circumstances.

I guess that's why Edward was trying to tell Susan that they could 'work it out'. But Susan didn't see this as possible, so she went for the extreme choice, which accorded her comfort but made her hollow. It is tragic indeed.

This dynamic is present in many relationships today, whether it is blissful love or rationally optimized. Extremes are easy, balance is hard. It is what it is.

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