Growing Out Of Game

And Growing Up

When you started learning the Game, it was about manufacturing tricks to get into a girl's pants.

You started to apply the tricks, and it worked. To a point where you did not get as much enjoyment from the "chase".

The inner validation gap you filled did not need any more attention.

The confidence you were previously lacking is now genuinely there, not manufactured.

You learned to develop your own frame from the experience gathered.

You eventually returned to the simplest form where you started, but what you initially thought was wrong and misguided.

"Just be yourself."

"Just be confident."

Eventually, it made sense.

This time, that version of you has plugged the leaks from your previous self, and you won't find tricks necessary because the confidence you have built is based on the experience you've gathered and the discernment you've gained.

Depending on your personality, you will have embodied some tricks that are now just YOU and discarded others. This will vary from person to person.

But you will realise less is more.

Why?

When you stop looking to make yourself adaptable to as many girls as possible to increase your notches, you will realise you are more authentic. It is not a gimmick to make a girl like you. It is your alignment with your own values, learning what you want and what you don't.

Among the many girls you have had the opportunity to experience, you will realise who fits you better than the others; therefore, the need to compensate won't be felt as such.

And you won't feel the need to perform to tell yourself stories about how much of "that guy" you are. You will be him for the right girls. It will feel natural, effortless and more genuine.

It goes back to another old wisdom:

"You will eventually attract the right girl(s) for you."

It is a usual route for guys to feel they have to learn to bed the hottest girls. We all want to do that. Some are genuinely good, and some are not so good. You have actually learned to appreciate the people for who they are, yourself for who you are, and acknowledge that you can't just buy them, nor can they just buy you.

You now understand where girls are coming from because now you live in a state of abundance, which women are bathed in from a very young age.

And everything makes more sense to you as to why they act a certain way. Except you have something they don't: self-awareness. You know why things work the way they do. They don't because they have not been on both sides of the river.

It will also feel natural for guys to accomplish themselves in the business world regarding financial stability.

That stage will give them another source of confidence and many lessons that can be transferred to the dating and relationship sphere. Nevertheless, the process is the same. With little knowledge and experience as a start and win after win, learning from the losses, you grow into an upgraded version of yourself—a more charismatic one.

You will be more demanding of your clients and select the best ones. You would rather have fewer and more loyal customers at a higher price than too many customers at a lower price point with a high turnover rate.

When you first started, you were looking to be an employee. The woman was the interviewer, and you had to display all the right things to be employed. You were working under her frame, consciously or unconsciously.

You were looking to pass her shit tests.

Business equivalent:

"What are your main strengths and weaknesses?"

You aced it, but reframe it however you want to in your head. You were still the teacher's pet, not the owner.

You will then understand that the true path to freedom is not constantly being on the women's validation payroll. You can manage your own payroll. You are the employer.

It comes with time and experience, and your recruitment will vary according to the individual; the company culture is the vibe between the both of you.

Eventually, as you become more grounded and established, you will attract the right people and redirect or repel the wrong ones.

Consider it the positive feedback of the universe, God or whichever entity you believe in.

The best way to eliminate maybe girls (the ones who are iffy about you and need convincing) is not to use Game on the front end. So, you have girls who are genuinely attracted to you without using techniques to instigate desire for maybe girls.

You then learn to appreciate who you are as an individual, as it is not co-dependent on new notches or some "moves." Yes, some will have become second nature, but it is just because they already fit your personality. It's a nice little addition.

It is when you don't feel like you have to double-think things, which makes man/woman interactions much nicer and free-flowing.

From there, you are in a good set-up where instead of thinking about what you need to do to get girls to sleep with you, you think more about what type of behaviour you will and won't accept.

You put yourself in the equation instead of solely doing girl-pleasing.

Yes, you will be leaving poon on the table. But does it matter since the marginal utility of an extra one does not really make a difference in your psyche?

You will also deal with less BS as you can spot the profiteers more easily.

You get the girls on your terms, but then the Game will be the tool that enables you to keep them alongside the identity that you established for yourself.

But this time, you won't have wasted time on a girl that was initially "meh" to you. Where to keep her, you would have to operate only in Game mode.

Some may think being with girls who were not sold on you from the start is better.

They are supposedly better-quality girls. This idea stems from the idea that the stuff you must work for holds more value. This is the type of thinking women have when it comes to men.

So, by holding that belief, one is actually transposing female brain-wiring into that of males. Men, for the most part, would take easy pussy vs hard to get pussy.

This can also be a by-product of getting many girls quickly; one needs to feel stimulated to then find value in a girl outside of her personal characteristics but how hard it was to game her.

"If she did not shit-test, it was too easy"…this is confusing the means with the end.

This is when the means became the end. The tool became the master, and the master became the tool.

Getting girls is as hard as one wants to make it be.

Her throwing challenges at you can either be due to her tight requirements or her not liking you that much. The second option is more often the case.

Or it could be that you believe the better-looking ones that 8+s are more challenging to get.

Whereas before, you would have put beauty above personality.

Because it was about how much you were validated being associated with such a hot girl when it was not the joy of bedding them…

It eventually became, "Is this association making my life easier, or is it causing unnecessary strains?"

That is when you appreciate the other as you being the center, and not others, whether it is the people who see you or the girl in question.

When it comes to women, everything is lopsided:

The more you try to make it work, the more they will run away.

Whereas in real life, troubleshooting leads you to find a resolution to the problem.

Here, the resolution to the problem will be the disintegration of the couple or the interaction.

The less you care, the more they will try to make you care, whereas the more you try to do things to resolve an issue, the more she will feel you don’t qualify for her.

In real life, if you let an issue rot, it is more likely that, with time, it will blow back into your face at some point.

By the same token, the fewer complications, shit-tests, and curve balls, the more value she demonstrates because they want to make it work instead of finding a reason why it should not.

The more she creates issues initially, the less certainty she will have of you during tough times and the more shit-testing.

As you get older, the more someone requires effort, the more you avoid addressing them.

It is not because you want to display some type of imagery. You just don't have the time, bandwidth, or even the inclination to prove them wrong.

Eventually, it is a "them" problem, not a "me" problem, and rather than try to fix it, I just find someone who initially fits better.

Game is primarily teaching you how to dodge curve balls at different turns for the finish line to be sex.

Women do that mostly unconsciously; this is why they have rubbish Game.

The moment you grow out of it is when the novelty wears out or when the marginal utility of an extra smash has a negative return against the resources employed.

You will reach that stage when you roll your eyes in real life or in your head at the NPC speech they have in the "seduction" phase before the smash.

"I usually don't do this".

"We're not gonna have sex tonight".

"Do you say that to all the girls?".

"I am not that easy".

It is like listening to a broken record.

This is when finding someone who does not sound like one is actually a rarer and more valuable commodity.

Call it a pendulum swing when the overindulgence in pussy turns you into someone who went from McDonalds to fine dining overnight.