Emotional Vulnerability Is Strength, Just Not With Women

Your Masculinity Isn't Defined By Them

Women are too weak to recognise it, even if their lives depend on it, and even if they acknowledge the value of vulnerability, their actions say the opposite, either by withholding theirs or punishing when men communicate theirs.

They prefer emotionally unavailable men because it caters to their innate insecurity, which they reward through the male guardedness communicated to them, acting as a similarity, which illustrates fear rather than serenity (when the guy represses himself rather than him not being interested, which is also a female cope).

This is why the "avoidant" is the most insecure person there is. Their mentality is so ingrained in scarcity that they would rather reject warmth out of low self-appreciation than welcome it. Their distrust of others is just the outward communication of their distrust of themselves, as they cannot withstand negative feedback from opening up.

Having said that, if you want pragmatic advice as a guy, if you're going to keep your relationship, it makes more sense not to display vulnerability because she won't appreciate it, or at the very least spoof it so that she can get the illusion of closeness. Most women won't ever understand the depth of the male experience, so communicating as if they were your equal in that regard would be an insult to your intelligence and their intelligence.

The underlying polarity required for a relationship is also underpinned by her lower capacity to comprehend subjects beyond specific cognitive abilities. It requires self-awareness and alignment with oneself, which women usually lack, and that goes beyond just getting some TikTok baptism in Bali.

Despite the pragmatic advice above, what communicates the strongest position according to you?

The one where you are not fearful of showing emotional openness, even if it means the end of the relationship because she perceives it as a weakness. But you do it regardless, as you would rather live true to yourself and not carry the burden of repression out of fear of potential underappreciation.

Or

The one where you operate perfectly in image management, protecting yourself against the misinterpretation that she thinks you are weak, to maintain a good relationship dynamic despite your true self.

One choice is born out of outcome independence and self-respect for what you value with others, and the other is placating for what the woman will reward.

We all have weaknesses, and the idea that you are not strong enough from not having shed them all, according to the woman's feedback, is lowkey female pedestalising because one cannot operate without a pussy barometer for his masculinity.

Regardless of your choice, you must be equally ruthless in responding to her behaviour, even if it is not the one you would champion in the other person. The above is not a legitimisation, nor is it an invitation to be a crying bitch. It is everything but.

What the masculine sphere has been suffering the most is to validate whatever the low logic gender has demonstrated as a legitimisation of what is strong and what is weak, when a weak person would not know what strong is because it is not the reality they operate in.

The only weak people are those who listen to or approve of what weak people respond to because they are as weak as the ones they seek validation and confirmation from.

The reason the dating and relationship market has been busted for the past decade or so is that men have lowered themselves to be as weak as the women they stooped to by behaving in the same way they have in handling their unprocessed trauma....Why? Because they get rewarded for it.

Unpopular opinion:

Women are more likely to reward insecurity than not. The difference is that successful people have developed a system where they know how to disguise it so that it won't be perceived as such—a self-protection mechanism. The perception is the reality. Nevertheless, the fakery behind the dynamic only confirms the smoke and mirrors of the underlying interaction between most people nowadays, which is as deep as an IG reel.

The dating market is a bunch of damaged and emotionally busted individuals who are in self-protection mode because they are afraid of going emotionally broke from the idea that they would not be able to recover should it go wrong. However, it is also understandable that men adapt to the environment with what works and does not.

Nevertheless, this is not the definition of strong or weak. You will find strength in other men, and you want to navigate within this environment because they are the ones who will know what it means to live the male experience and will reward that show of vulnerability from the genuine authenticity it sub-communicates and which is highly valued amongst them. That is the difference between people not playing on easy mode to get the positive outcomes they benefit from and those whose only ability to masquerade as strong is a function of their unawareness of how easy it was for them to get where they are.

The gynocentric order is one of fakery and make-believe, illustrated objectively by using fillers, filters, make-up, and extensions, to cite a few. The perception is there to hide the reality by making the two merge. This is why they enter cognitive dissonance when the reality does not match the perception of themselves they feed themselves with and are championed by their girlfriends, who contribute to the emotional communal Feel Good pot.

Suppose you seek the validation of your masculinity through the reward-punishment process of women for your behaviour. In that case, you are only showcasing a surface-level understanding of being a man and an approval-seeking mechanism from women, not much better than the son raised by a single mother who has not cut the umbilical cord as an adult.

Busting nuts in between her legs or in your toilet hole is the same and as valid a judgment of your masculinity and strength as the triviality behind the act.

At best, she will know the brand of Strong TM, but she won't understand the specs or the difference in value and price between the models.

The difference between deep and surface-level. The one who can’t be hurt because even through disclosing his weaknesses, he won’t be defeated as he is invincible, and the one who is so shielded because he knows the right punch will knock him out.