Dating Diary Of The Average 30 Year Old Single Woman

And What To Expect

She had her fun years or 1 to 3 long-term relationships.

She had her hoe phase(s) (generally within the year after the breakup)

She is realising her career will bring her, at best, mid to high 5 figures.

She decided that she chose her previous boyfriends for the wrong reasons.

She reads female dating coach books and listens to female dating podcasts.

She has her MANIFEST book on her bedside table.

She checks her astrological app when she wants to be hopeful.

She preaches serendipity to convince herself that things will fall out of the sky (works in conjunction with manifesting).

She is now set on a serious guy, but that serious guy will have to work on her agenda.

She sees some of her friends getting engaged and attends baby shower events. It gets her anxious.

She then decides to reopen Hinge and Bumble (Tinder was just for the cock carousel phase, now she is affirming herself to be a new woman).

She is looking for successful and stable guys. Not the dickheads/narcissists/fun guys of the past.

She now knows what she wants.

She goes on a date with what looks like is that guy.

Here is where she has a choice. Some women will choose choice 1; some will choose choice 2:

1) She tolerates the company of the “successful and stable” guy; just as they go on a few dates, she decides to give it up. And even though she may not feel the same attraction as some of the guys in her past, needs must.

She will dig her claws into him. And lock him in fast. But she first had to give the impression she was not that type of girl.

She supposedly does not want to play games anymore. Whereas before, she was chasing the guy for validation, one way or another, now she is chasing commitment at the expense of her lower attraction for that guy who officially compensates for his reliable and adult character (why when they say “why can’t you not grow up” to you, it means she cannot control you, and that turns her on).

She feels in control of the situation, that same control which plants the seeds of her future contempt for that guy.

Eventually, they follow her agenda because the guy finally believes his previous hard work is now appreciated.

2) She goes on a date with that same guy. But despite all of her pre-mental work, she cannot accept getting less excitement than what she had in the past with this guy.

“The spark was just not there.”

“We did not have chemistry.”

“I just did not get the vibe.”

And she eventually becomes a serial dater, getting piped down by the guy who sees her as damaged goods but good enough for a few nights or weeks.

The same reason she nexted the solid guy is the same reason she is getting pumped and dumped by the rest.

At this point. She turns off the apps for a few months to recover some self-esteem before getting back out there again.

She will then try the celibacy route, thinking not giving the coochie will change anything when it is just her lust/attraction receptors overpowering her rational agenda.

Eventually, she will give up when she gets tired of the results.

On 30+ celibacy-preaching women, there were not like that to begin with.

Hard pendulum swings only happen as a reaction on the opposite end of the spectrum.

Ex-alcoholics going full sober.

Ex-druggie going full clean.

She is not who she says she is. She is just adapting to fit her agenda. And as she always prioritised herself first (otherwise, she would still be in a relationship), she is still doing it now, though appearing as if she is not, if she is smart enough, or making demands out of desperation when she is not.

The maturity you suspect is just a front, except for the misguided overt transactionalism she displays in finding her mate “of choice”.