Bridging The Gap Through Game

How It Is Not About You As Much As You Would Like It To Be

Game is bridging the gap between you and the girl. It creates the right emotions within her to achieve your desired positive outcomes.

Game is a bridge. The gap is the distance between the sexes to mate.

Many guys have issues with forgetting about the bridge, so they think everything is personal. In reality, when you decouple feelings and the process of creating them from the messenger, it is less about the messenger as an entity than his ability to build the proper structure to get the positive outcomes he seeks.

Therefore, one's responsibility to take accountability for the outcomes they get should be restrained to the level of what they did or did not do to get to that outcome. It should not go beyond that for the simple reason that women respond to the feelings of the moment rather than the intrinsic reality of who you are as a man in your identity. They may feel it occasionally, but as their moods or opportunistic views of you change, they will change to fit their ego, narrative, and personal situation of the time.

Even then, there are nuances to consider; sometimes, you will be at the right place at the right time, and everything will flow naturally. Sometimes, you will have done everything right, but because of bad timing, you must remain long enough in the fray for all the planets to align. This explains why closing a dead lead is much more about the above than Game skills. In the same way, salespeople will manage to close a sale, at the end of the 4th quarter, because the department buying needs to use their whole budget so that higher management does not shrink it in the following year, rather than them really valuing the product or the salesmanship.

Sometimes, it is the wrong place, and working in the wrong market will give you fewer opportunities because the quality is not there. By default, it creates a scarcity factor to the benefit of the girls who qualify, with an overdemand from guys. This will require a higher level of work to bridge the gap, which is a second-order effect of the higher competition level.

Looksmaxxxers will think it is only looks-based, one should be hot enough to give her the tingles. She is being ego validated for being associated with you, so they believe Game is unnecessary. The bridge does not exist for them. Essentially, they project the male gaze onto the female one by ignoring the bridge between both genders. Are they completely wrong? No, but they only focus on one area and misattribute the reason. His looks are not his personality, despite the illusion of the Halo Effect. Perception is reality as long as your reality is as hollow as the underlying perception of it. That is why very good-looking people often, but not always, tend to be more shallow than the rest on a relative basis,

Gamemaxxxers will think it is only Game. They believe the opposite of looksmaxxxers by acknowledging the idea of the bridge. Through mechanisms and structure, they look to engineer the platform to kickstart the right feelings in the girl by creating a positive perception of them in her eyes. When one perfects oneself in that area, they will tend to overlook the timing and environmental dynamics, which influence the grounds under which the bridge is built, aka the woman's feelings.

Moneymaxxxers will think it is mainly money that creates attraction because of the realm of options, which allows them to display their superiority in a very male competitive dynamic that they project onto the girl. In that sense, they understand indirectly the concept of the bridge. As long as they do not attach the money they hold to their person as part of their identity, they won't miss the point that money is the tool, not the end. Therefore, it is less about him than what he can provide.

The Looksmaxxxer will think the bridge does not exist because Chad is Deus-Ex Machina when looks are confused for the positive feelings they generate inside the girl.

The Gamemaxxxer will think the bridge exists, but he overestimates the influence of his game skills to create the right emotions when the macro (her life situation and what she feels in the moment as a response to it makes her more vulnerable to his tactics) aligns with the micro (his actions). He forgets that the bridge to be built and operating has to function on the proper ground influenced by environmental factors.

The Moneymaxxxer will create the incentive to achieve the outcome he wants, so in a way, he purchased the bridge. However, despite his funding, he does not own the structure. It is a leaseholder, and the real property owner is the girl's feelings; she owns the land where the bridge is being built.

The bridge only holds as long as the ground on which it is supported lasts. So when the structure fails, as long as it was built to the best of standards, it has less to do with the person who built it through either looks, game, money as a means or a mix of them, but through the compatibility, the resilience and the sustainability between the ground and the structure.

This is why looking for the proper ground is key for anything that needs to hold up long-term. Here, it is about appreciating that good timing and the right location matter and are beyond our control, outside of the research done to put the odds in our favour. Vetting is good, but it assumes it is a constant when environmental conditions change.

Acknowledging this is part of where the man needs to take accountability, alongside the quality of the bridge he built. Beyond that, it is outside of his control, and he should not look to take responsibility as it will eat him from within.

In the short run, building a bridge on the wrong ground can yield you the illusion of it working until it does not. It is about accepting that most likely you did not have all the information, and if you had, you would not have invested as many resources. So it only makes sense to invest less at first as part of your ongoing research efforts to see if there will be a rejection or not. The right place and the right time play a much more significant role in this setup. Still, you need to build that bridge regardless, so it is not entirely out of your hands.

It is natural for us guys to take accountability for everything we do and forget about that bridge. That is our solipsism, or even, dare I say, egocentrism, where we rely too much on external feedback to understand our value when we actually build that foundation internally through stress, solitude, and pressure. External feedback, whilst important, is secondary to the internal work.

However, most modern men only ignore the external bridge when they don't underestimate the contingent factors associated with the structure, rather than focus on the internal foundation to draw their validation and value. In essence, they become feminine through the external validation loop women only rely upon, becoming pack animals. This makes them fragile as individuals. It is not about relinquishing agency but understanding the scope of what is in our control and what is not.

The bridge is what we do to get to the outcome we want with a woman, but it also relies on the ground on which it is built, which men do not own. Remembering that the bridge exists and the caveats it operates under makes us appreciate our level of accountability and what falls outside of it. Ignoring it will only lead to one's eventual downfall, as the misattribution of the conclusions he makes will eventually decenter him. At best, he will go on a wild goose chase, which he will confuse for a treasure hunt; at worst, it will lead to a definite solution to a temporary illusion.